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1。 Introductions

亚洲必赢,      After the spring festival, I came back to work. At the hallway of
my office, I met one of my college, Wang. He is a short young man about
28 years old, he comes from Shandong province. People from there are
famous of speaking too straightforward. He looked at me, and said, “
Wow, look, who is she? Wendy, have you eaten lots of delicious food
during the holiday? You look fatter than before.” Fatter? Fatter?!
There are 2 words you can never, never say to a woman. The first is fat,
the second is wrinkle. I surveyed him coldly and said, “Young man, being
fat is a trouble for a short time. But being short is a trouble for a
long life.”


      Yes, my hometown is shanghai.

Before you can get to know someone, it’s a good idea to introduce

      He stood there embarrassed.

在你认识某个人之前, 自我介绍是个好办法。

      Suddenly, I felt so sorry about my behavior. I still remember when
I was young, my mother told me people learn how to talk in one or two
years. But they learn how to communicate all their lives, and even many
people never know how to communicate all their lives.

You can introduce yourself to anyone you don’t know, or to remind
someone you’ve met before who might have forgotten you。 When you’re
introducing yourself, you can add a little bit of information like
where you first met, or what you do。 You can even use your English
learning as a conversation starter。

      What is a good conversation? Do we have to tell lies? When your
friend is in a strange suit. You have to say it’s good?


      Having a good conversation takes practice, and it is even an art
form to some. It doesn’t have to be hard ,though. There are some simple
steps you can take when conversing.


       First of all, be confident! Being around confident people makes
you feel good because their enthusiasm can be infectious. Don’t be shy,
but rather, project confidence to make the other person feel
comfortable. If you’re not sure what to talk about, simply ask questions
to find out more about the person! What do they like to do? What did
they do today or last weekend? Simple questions like this can easily
spark and carry a pleasant conversation.

“Good morning! We always have coffee at the same time but we’ve never
spoken before。 My name is [Your Name]。”

      Make sure to listen! Listening is only half of any conversation,
so pay attention to what the other person is saying. You can show you
are listening by acknowledging what they say with head movements. If
you’re too busy thinking about something else, or thinking about what
you want to say, the conversation is not going to get far. What the
other person is saying will lead to questions you can ask. In fact, it’s
best to let the other person do most of the talking. They will likely
not even realize they’re doing all the talking, but after the
conversation, they will think of you as a good conversationalist!


      It’s often been said “It’s not what you say, but how you say it.”

“Hello, how are you today? My name is [Your Name]。 I’m still
learning English so please let me know if I make any mistakes。”

      Why conversation skill is important for career growth? You may
have all the necessary technical skills, the expertise and the
experience that can really attest that you deserve that next promotion,
but if you haven’t got the conversation skills to back it up, you might
miss the opportunity to level up in your career.


      It is important to be able to have the conversation skills to
communicate everything that will contribute for your career growth. You
can’t just silently plug away at your work without being open to
opportunities of growth. You can actually make changes by means of using
your conversation skills.

“Hi Angela。 You might not remember me but we met at Tom’s Christmas
party last year。 I’m [Your Name]。”

      Having good conversation skills does not only give a good edge
compared to your colleagues, but it will also help you gain the general
goodwill of most people in your workplace. If you are as gracious with
your words as you are excellent with your work, people will just
naturally trust you and establish you as someone who is reliable and fun
to work with. Good conversation skills ease the gaps that come between
people who have little or almost nothing in common.



2。 Universal Topics




Topics that are universal can be shared by almost anyone。


Things like the weather, current news, sports and entertainment are
usually safe conversation starters, especially when you’re speaking to
a group—even if one person doesn’t really watch sports, someone else in
the group might。


Although these topics are talked about by many, some people might not
be fans of sports, or might not follow entertainment news, so if you
can, try to match people’s interests to the topic you choose。 For
example, if you’ve heard them talking about big news stories in the
past, you could try to talk about a news story from today。



“Did you watch the Oscars last week? I can’t believe Leonardo DiCaprio
finally won one!”


“This weather is crazy! It was cold yesterday and today I came in with
an open jacket。 I hope it stays warm, don’t you?”


“That basketball game yesterday had me glued to my seat。 Wasn’t that a
great save at the very end?”


3。 The Day


If you’re not sure what topic to talk about, or don’t have anything
interesting to say, you can just ask someone about their day, or you
can talk about yours。



How was your day? / How has your day been so far?


How have you been feeling today?


What have you been doing today?


Has anything exciting happened today?


What are you planning for after work?


Are you doing anything fun after work?


You can also share information about your day and how you’re doing, but
try to keep a balance of talking and listening, so you both get to
speak the same amount (and you’re not just talking about yourself the
entire time)。


Even if the person looks like they’ve been having a bad day, you can
make it brighter just by making small talk! Make sure not to ask
questions that are too personal, and instead offer some nice words of



“Hey there。 You look like you’re having a rough day。 I hope it gets
better for you。”


“Good morning! I went camping on Saturday, and of course it rained all
day。 Was your weekend any better?”


“The day is almost over! Do you have any interesting plans for the


4。 The Workplace


Some conversations are only appropriate in a work environment。


Stay even less personal at work than in more casual places, and avoid
gossiping (talking about other people who are not present)! Instead,
you can talk about the day, an upcoming party or meeting, or ask about
the person’s job。



“Hi Tom。 How are things going over at the IT department today?”


“Good morning。 I’m really looking forward to the party after work
today。 I hear Pam brought her famous carrot cake!”


“What a busy day。 This is the first time I’ve gotten up from my seat
all day! Are you busy too?”


5。 Observations


Some of the best small talk is about where you and your conversation
partner are located。


It’s something you both share, so there’s no worry that they won’t know
what you’re talking about。 Look around and find something to comment
on, or look at your partner and find something nice to compliment them
on。 Nothing makes people feel better than a genuine compliment!



“I love your shoes today, they really pull your outfit together。”


“Did you see? They finally fixed the light in the break room。 It’s
been broken for almost a month!”


“Hey Pam, your cookies last night were delicious! Thank you for making
them for the party。”


6。 Common Interests


When you have something similar with your speaking partner, that means
you have something to talk about。 Find a mutual friend (a friend you
both know) or a common interest or hobby, and you’ll have something to
talk about。


Keep in mind that English speakers rarely actually say the word
“hobby,” so asking “What are your hobbies?” sounds strange and
unnatural。 Try asking questions instead, based on observations。



“My cousin mentioned you last night。 I didn’t know you knew her! Where
did you meet?”


“I noticed your hat has a Yankees logo。 Are you a fan of baseball


“I tried baking cookies like yours last night and they came out
terrible。 How do you make them so good?”


7。 Questions


You might have noticed by now that most of these small talk examples
have something in common: They ask questions。 A good way to start a
conversation is to make a comment, then ask a question。 This keeps the
conversation from ending on your comment (and making things even more


When asking questions, listen as much as you talk, and don’t get too
personal with your questions。 And remember to keep things positive!



“Hey, I heard you were thinking of adopting a new dog。 Did you find


“I’ve been meaning to ask you this for a while: how long have you been
working here?”


“Your hair always looks great。 What hair products do you use?”


The next time you’re standing with someone and no one is speaking, you
know what to do!


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