You want to know the secret to success？ Here it is：
30 Surprisingly Difficult Ways to be Extraordinary
Believe in yourself so much， that no one else can tell you otherwise。
By Tyler Tervooren
Also doubt yourself so much， that you feel like no matter how hard you
work nothing could ever get you to your goal。
Life is simple, but living remarkably is not nearly as easy as all of
the“5 Ways to be Successful”articles on the internet make it out to
be. In fact, it’s quite hard and there is no guide you can follow, so
you’re going to have to make your own.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that someone else’s success isn’t a good
place to start learning. A remarkable life is hard, but it’s worth
Work so hard， that your friends think you‘re crazy。
I spend most of every day thinking of more ways to step up my game and
take things to another level. To this day, I’ve never come up with an
easy way to do it. That’s okay because, if I did, it probably wouldn’t
be very valuable anyway. No, to be remarkable means to take risks over
and over again on difficult things that might not work. It means
stepping outside the comfort zone that contains most people, and
exposing yourself to danger.
So that’s what I try to do. I don’t always succeed; in fact I fail quite
a lot. Yet, I’ve never been upset that I tried. Here are 30 ideas I’ve
used, all with varying degrees of success. I hope that they can help you
in your journey to lead your own remarkable life.
Be ridiculed， be shunned， be ignored， be told no。 Get shut down so
many times that you become immune to it。 That it drives you， and gives
I don’t claim to be extraordinary myself. In fact, I’m pretty sure that
doing so is an immediate disqualification. But, I can say that every day
I try and hopefully get a little bit closer.
Set boundaries for yourself。 IE don‘t spend your money going to every
Leverage what you’re already good at…
Everyone is born with a unique set of talents. Take as much time as you
need to figure out what yours are because they’re the most valuable
tools you’ll have for the rest of your life.
Also， go get inspired。 Take yourself out of your work cycle， remind
yourself why you are working yourself to the bone。
Take pride in your abilities, and always use your powers for good
instead of evil. Someday, you’ll be remembered for what you did with
…But fix what needs improving.
Give EVERYTHING to your craft。 If there‘s someone in your life or
something you do that prevents you from working 25 hours a day， get rid
It’s common in today’s world to simplyoutsource your
someone who’s better at them. That can be useful at times, but never
take it for granted.
Endeavor to become better at the things that hold you back and never
assign part of your life to someone when you don’t fully understand what
they’re doing with it. You’re the one in charge, so make sure you get
what you actually want.
Ingrain the idea in your mind that NOTHING will get you where you want
to be other than hard work。
Find what only you can give back.
At the intersection of all your talents, weaknesses, and perspectives on
the world lies yourultimate gift to
the unique thing that the world needs and you’re the only person on
Earth that can give it.
Keep working so hard， that eventually what you are doing isn‘t work。
It’s who you are。 And now people are taking notice。 Your parents
believe in you； your friends support you。
If you devote your life to anything, let it be to finding this. It’s
unlikely that you’ll regret it.
Build a few deep, lasting relationships…
Keep doubting yourself。 Always know that there‘s something else better
out there that you have to keep working harder than you did yesterday to
You don’t need a lot of them to be happy, but a few incredibly close
friends or relatives – people you can talk to about anything – will make
life a lot easier and more enjoyable to get through.
When things are harder than ever before and you don’t know where to
turn, these are the people that will keep your head on straight. Do
everything you can to help them and you’ll get the same in return.
Enjoy yourself。 Be happy。 Be grateful， be humble。
…But keep as many loose ties as possible.
It’s just as important to network with as many people as you possibly
can. You can’t have 10,000 best friends, but in today’s digital
keep you motivated, tell you jokes, and help you with the odd problem
you’re having are not that hard to come by.
Keep working your ass off so you can make every single day of your life
as good as this one， and better than the day before it。
Let people know how you can help them, and you’ll attract plenty of good
company to make life just a little bit better.
Improve yourself every day…
Never take a great life for granted and never take a miserable one as a
sign of defeat. Do something, anything, every single day to make
yourself a little bit better than you were yesterday.
Read a book,sing a
Whatever you do, never stop working to learn more.
…And help someone else improve every day.
You don’t exist in a bubble, and your community, whatever that means to
you, is only as strong as its weakest member.
Take the time, every single day, to help someone over a hurdle, to learn
something new, or to do something meaningful. Not only will this improve
their life, but it will improve yours and everyone’s around you.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Every person on the planet has their own agenda and you don’t stand a
chance at getting anywhere with yours until you understand theirs.
When you feel like you have something to say, wait. Ask yourself if
you’ve taken the time to hear what’s been said to you. By understanding
others, you’ll be far better suited to help them understand you once
it’s your turn.
Take credit when you do something great…
Unless you truly want to remain in obscurity, don’t be shy when you do
something worth mentioning. If you create something amazing, stand up
and claim it.
The temporary fear that comes from being in the spotlight will soon
fade, and it’s nothing compared to the glory. You earned it, so don’t
let it pass you by.
…And give credit where it’s due.
When someone else creates something amazing, be the first to tell the
world who made it. If you build on someone else’s success, make it clear
who made your work possible.
By giving praise to the people that have made what you do possible,
you’ll get only respect back. The world has room for as many success
stories as can be told. Always expand the
Say you’re sorry when you screw up…
Nobody gets through life without making mistakes. If you’re lucky,
you’ll only make a few big ones and many small ones.
When you screw up and it hurts someone else, say you’re sorry. And don’t
just say it, actually mean it. Take a minute to understand the damage
you’ve done and make sure you convey that you’ve taken it seriously.
…And learn how to forgive.
When someone has wronged you, learn how to let it go. Understand that
very few people hurt each other on purpose and even fewer don’t regret
If someone apologizes to you, thank them for it and mean it. If they
don’t, let it go and move on with your life. Nothing makes living more
unbearable than the ongoing feelings of anger and resentment.
Get out and see the world…
Travel is fatal to xenophobia. The more you see of different people and
different places, the more you realize we’re all the same.
Pick somewhere you’ve never been and make a plan to go there. Don’t
think to hard about it. Don’t try to pick the perfect place. You’ll have
more opportunities to go elsewhere once you get started and frequent
abundant. If you need to save, then save. If you need to plan, then
plan. But, by all means, go.
…But don’t stay gone too long.
Life-long travel is an excellent goal, but don’t forget your ties to
As important as it is to learn of new people, places, and things, it’s
just as important to foster your understanding of the place that created
Life is interesting because tiny differences can create completely
different cultures. As you learn of new ones, try not to lose the one
that others will also, someday, want to learn of.
Influence people to make the world better.
You have influence. It may be over just a few people or it may be over
millions; only time will tell. Whether you want it or not, you’ve got
it, and what you do with it will change the course of history forever.
Use your persuasive powers to make the world a better place to live for
everyone. It takes the same amount of effort to do something good as it
does to do something evil, so you may as well work to make things
Do something that scares you every day.
Life was not meant to be lived in completely safety. Do not hide under a
rock when you’ve been called to stand up.Do something meaningful but
your time every single day.
If you’re not used to living like this, you won’t change overnight.
However, you can make a huge step in the right direction by taking just
a tiny one today. Find something that makes your heart beat just a
little bit faster and go do it.
Clean up a mess that isn’t yours.
Not everyone will hold the same values that you do. Not everyone will
work to make their own world a better place to live in. Some people will
ignore their duty to others and some will actually try to make it worse.
You can’t change these people, but youcanchange the effect that their
actions have. Picking up someone else’s mess never feels good, but
living with it feels even worse. The next time you see a piece of trash
(literally or figuratively), pick it up.
Stand up to authority.
Just because we’ve always done it this way doesn’t mean that we’re doing
it right. It’s your responsibility to notice when something can be
changed for the better and it’s also your responsibility to make it
You’ll be met with fear, anger, and even violence from those that keep
things working the way they always have. Don’t be deterred. The whole
world is depending on you.
Take important things seriously…
Don’t screw around when it’s time to work. The only way to get where you
want to be in life is to take what you do seriously and do it as often
If it matters to you, then it’s important. It doesn’t have to mean
something to anyone else. Take what you do seriously, and people will
…But laugh at them, too.
Take what you do very seriously, but never at the expense of having
Life is far too short to deprive yourself of enjoyment.
There’s no reason why you can’t take yourself seriously and have a lot
of fun laughing, too. Relax a bit. Work your ass off, but make it a good
time – not just for you, but for everyone around you, too.
Dress the best you can afford.
You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but everyone does anyway. If
you want to change that, you’ll need to start with a very good cover.
If you want people to pay attention to you, then dress well and speak
like you know what you’re talking about. There’s a reason we pay more
attention to people in expensive clothes. It’s the easiest way to tell
that someone cares about his or herself.
Once you’ve changed the world, then you can start wearing sweatpants and
stop shaving. Until then, you’re going to need help getting attention.
Take a risk on something you’ll probably lose.
When you make the decision to do something remarkable, theodds are
always stacked against
There’s no way around it, so it’s best to just get used to it.
Don’t be afraid of this. The people who succeed the most in life usually
fail the most, too. At the same time that Babe Ruth was setting
baseball’s home run record, he was also setting the strikeout record.
Nobody really cares about that, though. The idea is to slowly tip the
scale towards success.
Those that have won before you are the ones that made the rules. There’s
no way for you to win unless you break them.
The rules that exist are designed so that you can’t win. That’s not
unfair or wrong, that’s just how life is. Someday, when you win by
breaking those rules, you’ll set up your own. Don’t be surprised when
someone new decides to break them. This is the cycle of life.
Find gratitude for what you have…
Everything you’ve achieved in life is a gift. You were either born
capable or born able to become capable.
Be thankful every day for what you have because tomorrow it could be
gone. No matter how little you own, remember that there is always
someone with less. Always make the best of your situation and find
gratitude not just for the things you have, but the things you’ve
…But always strive for more.
Never give up your drive. Be grateful every day for what you have, but
never let an accomplishment stop you from pursuing another.
Life is meant to be enjoyed, but it’s also meant to be worked for.
Allowing yourself to be lazy is pleasing now, but in the long run you’ll
pay for it. If you ever get the idea to try something new, try it. If
you want to make something, make it. If you want to change something,
change it. If you don’t, you’ll eventually regret it.
When you win, celebrate. Give yourself the time and opportunity to be
truly happy about what you’ve done.
Winning is hard work and you deserve to enjoy it when it happens. Spare
no expense in time or money because you never know when you’ll get to
again. Take pride in your achievement and show people how good it feels
to be on top.
…And lose graciously.
Also remember that no one can stay on top forever. Every winner
experiences a loss. Look at it as an opportunity to congratulate another
If you won every time, winning would be meaningless. Your achievements
wouldn’t matter because you’d have no competition. Be glad that you’re
surrounded by other amazing people competing for the same goal. Be happy
for them when they win. When you win again, it will actually matter.
Ignore your critics.
If you ever want to do anything interesting in your life, you’ll have to
accept the unfortunate fact that some people will be upset about it.
These will most likely be those that don’t lose graciously, set the
rules that you’re breaking, and have fallen into laziness and like the
way things already are.
Don’t pay attention to their heckling because if you do, eventually
you’ll end up just like them.
Leave a legacy.
Spend your time working on something timeless. Create things that people
can enjoy for eternity.
You will not be remembered for the things you consumed. Once you’re
gone, all that remains of you are the things you created, the ideas you
spread, and the way you made people feel. Make sure you’re building
something meaningful that will last.
Don’t listen to me.
This is the most important piece of all, so don’t forget it.
You could have been any number of millions of things, but you were lucky
enough to end up human. This means that you have the ability tothink
make decisions based on your own experiences. Don’t waste that. It’s